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There are so many terrifying stories about cruel nannies and their horrible treatment of children. They were hitting babies, yelling on them, also there were thefts commited by the nannies. I don't say that all the nannies are the same, but after that you understand that even agencies can't garantee the sanity of their nannies and therefore the safety of your baby.
Do you have nanny? If yes, how did you find her? Do you use video camera or dictating machine for checking her?

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Oh yes, I've seen so many TV programms about such nannies. Those were the most terrible cases, but still who knows what your nanny will be like? Try to find a good woman by recommendation.

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It might by a good idea to first think of a familymember or a real close friend (who is good with children/baby's) too let them take care of your child. On second place a certificated agency that has a good reputation. Check how the agency screens the nannies, and on what kind of education/experience the nannies must have before the company hires them.

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Well, I was a participant of an international exchange program "Au-Pair" in Germany. I spent one beautiful year in a german family with 3 sweet children (one 9 year old girl and two 4 year twins). At the beginning it was some kind of adventure for me, I thought only about new impressions and the only aim I had was to see and learn as much as possible.
For those, who don't know what Au-pair means: au pair is a young person who lives temporarily with a family abroad in exchange for a reciprocal arrangement with his or her own family. Such person is supposed to learn a foreign language and look after children, if any.
So my duty was to spend 5-6 hours per day with children playing with them, going for a walk, reading, drawing. And I liked it. They are soooo sweet, those kiddies. I miss them very much and even now I keep in touch with this family and children.
Of course, you will never be able to trust you child totally to some other person, nobody can guarantee the safety of your child. But be sure, the majority of nannies are kind-hearted and try to do their best.

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agree with Patrick

first think of a familymember or a real close friend

we found that my mother is happy to spend time with our son and get paid for it (why not!) - this is mutual benefit! About half-year passed this way already and it works great for everybody.

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we found that my mother is happy to spend time with our son and get paid for it

Hm, I'm not sure, I could pay my close relative for looking after my kid..but yes, it's convenient.

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I was worrying about it as well, but to be sincere it seems to be great for everybody.

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we found that my mother is happy to spend time with our son and get paid for it (why not!)

I don't think it's a good idea.
There must be family relations between members of one family and not employer-employee relations.

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Consider it different way. Regardless of whether my mother is helping us with our son I support her with money. Just in this case my support is bigger in size Neither of us thinks it is employment situation.

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It depends on how long a grandmother spends with grandson: at the weekands or every day when the mother are at work?

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It depends on how long a grandmother spends with grandson: at the weekands or every day when the mother are at work?

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5 or 4 days per week, about 4-5 hours each time. Quite a lot I should say!

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Does he visit a kindergarten?
So, if the grandmother has enough power (physical and mental), it's better than nanny, whether or no

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He doesn't go to kindergarten yet. We believe that for now our grandmother is the best nanny for him. But we are also going to start kindergarten for him soon - so that he would have more time to play with children.

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Really, the most children needs nannies up to 3 years. Than the child should learn to be independent and sociable.

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no i don't have any nanny i take care of my child my self.

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no I dont have any nanny. i take care of my baby myself.

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We would do so as well, but both our kid and we the parents would like to have some rest from each other from time to time. And of course we have other activities to spend time on. Unfortunately I don't see any way to take care about our son without any help preserving productive work and other stuff. How do you manage to do it?

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It seems to me that children until a year and a half perceive themselves as living toys. Then it comes the time when the child no longer needs the constant mother presence. And mum should begin to discharge her social functions ...
In my opinion, it happens at the age of 2-3.
Then this issue is decided in each family in its own way.

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i had my nanny when my child is about 4yrs. old she studies at that age and that's the time i decided that i needed someone to look over my kid and also for the house chores..and because i started working that's one reason...